One of my students is going to get married, I talked to him: “You and your wife will be the parents of your life. Each of you should find his or her own way to take care of the same child.”
In fact everybody is the “parents” of their own life. Sometimes the mother is your care, the father is your determination; sometimes the mother is understanding, the father is encouragement; sometimes the mother is rest, the father is diligence. The “parents” are just two sides of you in balance, which influences how the “child“ grows up.
When you are out of patience, the child will become restless; when you have less comprehension, the child will be more cynical; when you are full of confusion, the child will have no direction. The child just reflects how the parents feel.
In the different stages of life, we should give different attention. In babyhood, it demands more support and guidance；in childhood, it requires more encouragement with trust; in youth, we should give more communication with understanding. Don’t give too much more than it needs, don’t ignore when it is necessary.
If the parents take responsibilities well, the child will be grateful. If the parents have enough sincerity, the child won’t be at a loss. The parents and child are growing together to be the master of themselves!