A friend said he was always being grasped by worry recently, because of many unexpected happenings with family and work.
"What can I do?" he wondered.
I asked: "is the worrying grasping you or are you grasping the worrying?"
"At first, it seems that the worrying had grasped me, and now I have grasped the worrying."
"So don't grasp the grasping." I replied.
When the soup is boiling over the pot, we'd better switch off the fire rather than blow down on the heat on the surface of the soup.
Grasping has two types, one is "to resist against the uncomfortable and unhappiness", it is the cause of stress. The other is "to attach to the comfortable and happiness", it is the cause of craving. And they have a common potential partner in "worrying". When the grasping is released, the stress and craving will not be there; if there's no stress or craving, the worrying is not able to arise.
"What causes the grasping?" He asked.
"Grasping what?" He kept inquiring.
"Grasping ‘you’! "