During the sitting meditation, we were always disturbed by the pain, soreness, an itch or
numbness of parts of our body. We regard them as enemies who want to destruct our concentration, and try to combat them. But actually they don’t have any intention to make us upset, it is only ourselves who view them as hostile. This kind of attitude of hostility is the cause of suffering.
Since a long time ago, we've divided things and feelings into two types: likes and dislikes.
There are some likes and dislikes that are common for most of people, there are also certain
likes and dislikes which are very personal. Like formulas, when we meet with the likes we feel
happy, when we meet with dislikes we feel upset or even endure suffering. But sometimes we
may have this kind of experience: we meet something we like, but we don’t feel happy, and no
matter what kind of thing we see, we just feel upset. Because we have “preset” our mind at the
“upset gear”. This may imply that everything might be just neutral; it is our mind that makes it more “colorful” or “painful”. So it means whether we can suffer the moment or not depends on in which kind of attitude we choose to face it and stay with. It also means the formula can be transformed by our mind.
The key moment is at the first contact of meeting with “physical pains” (soreness, itchiness,
numbness, headache, sickness…) or “mental pains” (anxiety, fear, hatred…); here we describe pains in a broader meaning. In the first moment we should not be “in a hurry” to accept the pain, to suffer, but to read the pain with objective awareness, to experience the characteristic of pain and the direct feeling of body and breathing. So that we are not going to be "swallowed” by pain but to embrace it with mindfulness. It shows that there’s the possibility for us not to choose to suffer. The solidity of following or using a formula still exists, but it is facing a challenge and begins to decline. Even though our mindfulness is not strong enough in the beginning, it can at least help us to delay the taking of suffering and decrease the pain.
Until one day we discover that the likes and dislikes are made of subjective preferences, which
serve the “inherent self” – the assuming inherent existence, and recognize it is the root of suffering.
Only when we dig out the root of suffering – the “inherent self”, will the suffering not arise any more:)